‘Let your mind & your creativity take you where you are meant to be’ – Lorena Bathey, Author by Life Treasure Collector
Lorena Bathey attended St. Mary’s College in Moraga graduating with a degree in English.
She started writing her first book, Happy Beginnings: How I Became My Own Fairy Godmother when her world fell apart and she needed to process changes in her life.
Lorena found characters Marissa, Andrea, Lily, Deidre and Beatrice were visiting her and wouldn’t leave and that’s how her first novel, Beatrice Munson, came to life.
She was inspired to write more novels and she knew that pursuing her passion was the best way to live her life. So a writer she became. She is also a wife, mother, grandmother, grilled cheese aficionado, and avid photographer.
Today Lorena has written several novels, Beatrice Munson, House on Plunkett Street, The X, Coaster, and Meeting Ms. Monroe. She is currently working on four novels, three of which are historical fiction. She has her own publishing company and she lives in California.
Find her at www.LorenaBBooks.com
My writing is my passion and love, so I decided to do it full-time. It is something I felt that I really wanted to do.
In this society there are too many people doing something they hate. Life is too short to be miserable every day of your life. You need to find something that gives you joy and follow your bliss.
Lorena became a writer in 2005. She wrote her first book Happy Beginnings: How I Became My Own Fairy Godmother that was a memoir. She wrote it after she lost her mother to cancer and after her husband left and she felt the need to start over her life. She started writing to help herself go through the emotions and every change that she was going through in her life.
My Mom passed away from cancer in 2001. She was 54. That was an eye opening experience for me. I was not in a happy marriage, other than my children, I was not really happy with my life. When my Mom died so quickly, so young, I just said this is not right. I’m not going to end up like this. I don’t want to go on the same path that she was on. That’s why I decided to make a change in my life. I changed how I did and handled things.
I decided that this attitude actually could be a book that could help other people, too. I especially wanted to help those that were going through their changes. It was how I dealt with what was going on and I believed it would be a very positive thing in my life. I realized that you can’t wait for things to happen, you’ve got to go and get stuff.
You can’t just expect a Prince to arrive at your doorstep, or your dream job to just appear, you need to make things happen.
I went to conferences and I spoke to women about this idea for several years. Then when I met my husband we both decided that we wanted to do something different. I started writing a novel and found that it was what I loved doing so I started my own publishing company. Now I write novels full-time and I love it.
When I wrote Happy Beginnings, there were many women that were going through similar circumstances as I was, maybe not the loss of their mother, but a divorce or change of their job. This book helped them see that you don’t have to be a super person or a super woman to be able to handle things. The way you look at things can change the way you approach them and the way you cope with life. I tried to infuse my book with messages that it takes some effort to change things in your life.
And it’s been interesting because many people have said that after reading my books it made them look at their life. Many times they decided that they needed to make some changes. This is the reason why I write books. When you hear that, it validates that you are doing what you should be doing.
Lorena approaches things a lot differently since she became a writer. She observes other people and she gets inspiration from their reactions to different situations.
I pay attention to people. Once we were in Washington and we went to Monticello where Thomas Jefferson lived. During the tour of his house, they started talking about his wife and all the letters he has written to her that he then burnt. They said there was only one picture of her left. Everybody on the tour started asking ‘why did he do that?’ Here is this great man and people where so interested in his life and his love. So I got this idea to write about Thomas and Martha Jefferson’s love and why it was such an important relationship to him. Even more, I wanted to find out why it was so interesting to other people.
The biggest thing for me is I try to write every single day. It is the best way to keep yourself really submersed in the book. If you take yourself out of the protagonist’s voice and then you have to put yourself back in, that can be a hard transition. Then you have to read everything you’ve just written and remind yourself of the story and characters because there are not in your head anymore.
It’s like playing the piano. If you don’t play often, you lose the contact with the instrument. It’s practice, and it’s work. I think this is the best way to keep it sharp. Like anything, if you have a skill and you don’t use it, your ability and that skill decreases.
I think the biggest thing that I would say to someone that would like to become a writer, and it sounds really small but it’s not, is to just start writing.
You don’t necessarily have to know what it is you want to write. If you just sit down and start to put words on a page it often opens up to new ideas. If it is a fiction book, characters will come. It’s like when you open up the door and invite them, they will arrive. Nonfiction is a different type of writing. Usually you are writing about something that you already know, something that you read about, or something in existence which gives you the story and characters already.
Mostly it is just writing about what you want to say. All of the clean up, the punctuation, and the formatting can be done later. First is to write the pages and get in the habit of writing things down.
This is the best piece of advice I can give, just start writing!
Be willing to let your mind and your creativity take you where you are meant to be. Often times, I’ve started at one place and I’ve ended up at somewhere totally different. So, it is just allowing your creativity to really take control of your fingers. Myself, I write it, I read it, I change it around. I read it so many times that I’m sick of it.
A good way to edit your work is to read things aloud. I find that is the best way to find any inconsistency or something that doesn’t work. Then I have a few people read it and tell me what they think. I always know when the book is ready. When it is I let it go into the world. You have to let go at some point.
And this is the thing with books that other arts don’t have. People expect for books to be perfect and they are never going to be perfect. You’re going to find a misspelling or a few things out of place, and within reason that’s okay. I think there is a much stronger stigma placed on books than there is with any other art form. And writing is art, just with words.
You are going to have people that say ‘I didn’t like this, I didn’t like that,’ it doesn’t matter what you do. You may write the most perfect novel on earth, with no mistakes at all, and someone won’t like it.
You can’t please everybody. When you are a writer you get hurt when people say what they think and you’ve got to be strong in what you’ve done. That has also helped me in my life, because you can’t let things that others say destroy you.
I try to turn negative comments around and use them to my benefit and for my writing. If people have seen something that I haven’t, instead of taking it personal, I try to say ok let me look at your point and see if it is valid and then use that. And it has improved my writing a lot.
So far with my reviews, I’ve been good. When people voice their point I use it as constructive criticism in my next book. It will never be perfect. But you have to pay attention. If you decide to write a book and put it out for the world, you make yourself a target. Reading is subjective. Books are subjective. So you don’t have to take it so personal and feel like you are being attacked.
I guess that what I learned most about myself is that there are lots of ways to help people. By writing about all the things that I have gone through, struggles and happiness, I can help other people. I can help other people with writing and the story that I tell. And hopefully, they see the message. I think it also brings a sense of be confidence in yourself.
Lorena’s next step is to write a book about Marilyn Monroe.
My next book is about Marilyn Monroe. I hate the way they’ve always portrayed Marilyn Monroe as this drug addled bimbo. The book is called, Meeting Ms. Monroe. It’s a novel about Marilyn, with a twist.
I put into writing what I believed she was really like. She was a smart woman. She read all the time, and not fluff books but Russian writers and history. She was always trying to become more intelligent and learn more about her work. She did some amazing thing too; she stood up to the studios and made them pay attention to her and she started her own production company. Marilyn wasn’t being paid like everyone else so she used her star power to get what she needed. I wanted to write about how she handled things. I also wanted to address the mystery behind her death. I did a lot of research about that day and wrote what I think happened that night.
Meeting Ms. Monroe is pure passion. Not only do I love what I do, but I wanted to write about someone that I really admire and kind of set the record straight.
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